Finding My Voice: A Journey Beyond Fear and Judgment
- Dr. Shane Halpe
Yesterday marked a personal milestone in my life.
No, it wasn’t about passing an exam, winning a championship, or graduating from university. Yesterday, I sang two songs in front of an audience—and to me, that was a significant achievement.
Let me explain why.
As a child, I was terrified of singing. I disliked the sound of my own voice and avoided singing during church services. Even though I began reading the Bible during Mass, I never dared join the choir. That all changed one day when the church pianist gently encouraged me to give it a try.
I joined the English Choir at Our Lady of Fatima Church in Maradana and found not just music, but friendships that have lasted to this day. Slowly, without realizing it, I began to overcome my fear. A mentor we fondly called “Neville Uncle” helped shape my confidence, urging me to sing out loud, to come closer to the mic. I began to hear something new: that maybe I had a good voice—a God-given one.
Though I continued to sing in church, I still avoided public singing. I recall once trying to sing with friends at university, only to be met with teasing. Though said in jest, those words wounded my confidence. And so, I retreated from the stage.
Years later, after passing my postgraduate Family Medicine exam, a colleague asked me to sing at a celebration. Nervously, I accepted. I practiced with YouTube karaoke tracks and sang “Quando, Quando, Quando.” To my surprise, friends praised my voice. It was amateur, yes—but it broke a barrier I’d carried for years.
That moment led to another.
Yesterday, a colleague asked if I’d sing at the Faculty of Medicine, University of Jaffna get-together. I said yes—despite not knowing many people there and navigating language barriers. I sang “Can’t Help Falling in Love” by Elvis Presley and “Master Sir,” a Sinhalese classic. Even the Acting Dean came over to commend me. I was deeply moved.
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Looking back, I am grateful.
Grateful for the chance to push past fear.
Grateful for the people—my parents, teachers, mentors, and friends—who helped me grow.
Grateful even for the critics who said I wasn’t good enough.
During my time at SAITM, I heard so much negativity. Media narratives painted us as “spoiled kids” who didn’t deserve to be doctors. A doctor once mocked me at the National Hospital, calling me a “backdoor medical student.” I was in my first year. The pain was real.
But I’ve learned this:
Society may try to break you. But if you surround yourself with people of faith, hope, and courage, you will rise.
Even your enemies can become your greatest motivators.
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So here’s my message to you:
🌟 Believe in yourself.
🌟 Enjoy what you do.
🌟 Surround yourself with good people.
Be thankful for the journey. For the battles. For the growth.
And keep striving to become the best version of who you are.
Live victoriously—every single day.














